Sides Effects of Over Expectations...

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If u expect your children to make you always happy, then you will definitely be       disappointed..........

Children are gift of God to parents.......
Having a kid is a joy, a challenge, a pain, a miracle and many more things. Many say parenting is always wonderful experience but how many agrees to it?????

Every parent has a responsibility for their kids. As a parents love their kids so much that, they even expect the same from them. They expect kids to show much appreciation for whatever they have done for them. There is no relationship that is perfect. Amazing reward and difficult suffering is offered by kids means you should be ready to accept their thoughts and dont set a bar too high for them. Expectation from children is a tricky task for parents.

If you expect too much from your kids they may be discouraged as they will come to know that they will not be able to fulfill your expectation and can give up.....

Expect too little from kids then might they can meet your expectation and can try more than your expectation....


Our expectation from child should be positive and realistic.

 We should have a good communication with child so that we can convey them through our talks and behavior that we have trust in them and believe in them that they can do their best. Expectation is easy to talk to, but its too hard to keep control on it...We have unrealistic expectation from kids and we forget very fast that they are at the age of learning and developing. We also expect that our kids should know everything which we knew. In this we forget to concentrate on Child development progress, their capabilities of understanding, their technique of learning and so many of parents get irritated at their kids for just being a kid still. We also give more lectures to our kids and our demand from them is very high. Punishing kids doesn't teach kids good way to act.


There are some side effects of over expectation which I would like to share with you all parents:

1. LOSE INTEREST:

When you expect more from kids they would think that if he does it and is not able to do, you would scold them and so they; would avoid to do that particular things even if they are master in it. They will lose interest in doing that things which they once loved to do. For e.g.: if your child loves drawing and scatting and suddenly if he refuse to do it. means there is a pressure from your side somewhere. So have a calm and soft talk with them and find out the reason behind it.

2. STOPS SHAREING ANYTHING:

Your kid will stop sharing their fears and faults with you. Because they know if you will come to know then you ll be too disappointed and unhappy with them. They should feet that there is someone to support to their failure and fear. Parents should be a safe place where they can share everything, so that they can be open to you fully, and you should support them in all their good and bad times.

3. CHILD GETS WORN-OUT/DOWN:

When your child shows any type of mood changing or if he feels tiered up very fast, it its just because his plate is already too full or the pressure from your side is very high. Those kids who are pushed up hard by their parents has many types of stress.

4. MISBEHAVIOUR:

Some kids many become stressed and dont speak or react or become sad and depressed and show their emotions, but some kids cant control showing there emotions. So they show their stress and depression by misbehaving in school, homes or any public places. They may get angry and do any misbehaving act...It can harm their future also.

5. INCREASE NEGATIVITY IN CHILD:

If you constantly say to your child about their negative side like "you don't study nicely, you will lose your marks if you don't study, you don't know how to study" this type repetition of negative statements makes a child create negative nature you should support your child positively.

Seeing the side effects, hope parents try to improve themselves and help kids to grow naturally and uniquely....