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In present age, where competition is at the top in every
walk of life, every parent wants his/her child to be topper. So this comparison
comes in their mind fastly. But some parent’s main aim of comparison is to encourage
their kids and generate a competitive nature in kids, so that this nature of
kids can give them a push to forward to fulfill the capabilities of doing their
best. Competitiveness is definitely a driving force towards a best performance.
But examine carefully:
IS IT WORKING WITH YOUR
CHILD?
Every child is different. No kids are same in this universe.
They have different talents, interest, and different ways of learning different
things. And comparing them at each and every step will just not help for kids.
You should make them understand how to be better in their job and not to be
better than their competitor.
Always ask yourself: Are you a
perfect parent???
And definitely the answer you will get is NO...So always
remember neither you can be a perfect parent nor your child can you child be a
perfect son or daughter in every field like academics, sports or any other activities.
Everyone in this universe has a different challenges and situation differs from
person to person and house to house. Even if you are a parent of 2 kids of
different of same age just watch them carefully, they will also differ in their
abilities, talents, and skills. Just be happy and proud with your child what he
is and what he can do...
It’s said comparison is the end/death of joy and happiness
of a child......
Here are some of important reasons why not to compare your
kid to other kid....
1. KILLS PARENT CHILD
RELATIONSHIP:
It is but clearly when a child is always compared with his
friends, cousins or neighbors, he will think that he cannot do something that
you want and you are always unhappy with him. So he will always get hurt by
your taunt, so he’ll try to keep distance with you. This may make your child
feel insecure and will never trust you and would never share any things with u.
This may in turn crush his future.
2. SHY NATURE:
If your kid is always taunted by in comparison, he will
never show anything new in him to you or will always be shy in exposing his
inner talent. His skills won’t come out as he will think that as he shares or
shows something new to you, you will compare it to others and won’t give a
compliments to him so he will grow up with a shy nature and this will make him
or her a shy kid.
3. STRESS:
When compared to other child, your child s stress level may
increase. Your aim should not to pressurize your kid to perform well, but
should calmly talk to him that what things is bothering him which is affecting
his performance and can find solutions to it.. Parents should encourage his
good things to boost his level of confidence.
4. LOWER SELF CONFIDENCE:
One of the important and crucial reasons not to compare
your child to others it will hurt their self confidence and lose confidence in
doing any job and feel worthless. And will never try to do anything which they
can.
5. REVENGE NATURE/JEALOUSY
NATURE:
If you keep on comparing your child with any other, then he
or she will suffer with a jealousy. It can be any child neighbor’s classmate,
siblings etc. Which in turn comes to revenge nature? The child can harm the
other child in revenge nature.
6. CREATE SELF-DOUBT:
If someone tells us that we are not good at anything and
whereas our friends is master in that, then slowly and steadily we will create a
doubt in our mind, so same is with our children, they will also wonder that
they are not so good enough at any particular job. So our aim and main object
as a parent is to encourage our kids at every step they take, and don’t make
them feel that there is someone ahead to them.
7. MAKE THEM UNIQUE/LET
THEM GROW AT THERE OWN SPACE:
Child hood is not a race to get top medals. Try to
encourage your kid to believe in himself/herself and help them to try to
develop their own interest and abilities. Sometimes in very starting age, for e.g.:
at the age around 2 if any kid is not speaking clearly or fully then parent
will start worrying that my child doesn’t speak clearly or fully and compares
their kid with her friend kid or any other kid that her friends kids did all at
this age. Now see this parent starts comparing their kid right from so early age.
This is also not good sign for growing kids. So don’t worry for all that your
child will learn everything till they reaches there specific destination…Give
them time to do grow at their own space and create some unique qualities.
No one thing is better than another and neither one child
is better than another. Let them grow naturally and develop their own interest
and ability to do things at their own unique style.
SO NOW PLEASE TRY TO CREATE A HABBIT NOT TO COMPARE YOUR
CHILD TO OTHERS BUT BOOST THEM FOR WHAT THEY ARE:
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