WHY DO KIDS LIE TO THEIR PARENTS PART-2

        

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Whenever you ask your child why do you hide things from me or why do you lie?The answer to your question will always be that, “because you scold me mamma”.So to be away from scolding and to defend themselves from scoldings and anger of parents they will lie to parents. Lies told to get rid of discipline can put you in a difficult position because if you punish your child every time he admits to doing something wrong, he may decide he is better of lying because sometimes he gets away with it. But if you don’t punish him, the behavior won’t change. And it gets more complicated if you actually punish the child for lying as well as for the original infraction. According to one study, parents who use moral principle to explain that lying is wrong reduced the frequency of their children lying, while punishment for lying increased the frequency of lies.

Parents should hold their kids responsible for lying. But the mistake parents make is when they starting blaming the kid for lying. It’s considered immoral to lie. But when you look at your kid like he is a sneak and an operator who is undermining your authority, it’s a slippery slop where it starts with “you lie” and “you’re a bad person”. I think this perception of your kids promotes more lying. If your child thinks you think he is bad, he is going to hide the truth from you even more. Even though they are lying, kids don’t want their parents to be disappointed.

So parents have to assume that kids are going to tell lies, because they are immature and they don’t understand how hurtful these things are. They are also drawn towards excitements, and their parents aren’t. It’s not like the good kids aren’t drawn to excitements and risk and the bad kids are. It’s not that good kids don’t tell lies and bad kids do lie. They are all drawn to excitements and they will all have a tendency to distort the truth because they are kids yet..

For older children, chronic lying is often a rebellion against restrictions. It is a way to challenge a parents authority. Preteens no longer feel they must tell their parents everything they do, they may respond with a lie to what they perceive as intrusive questions. As they grow older, kids realize tht the greatest control they can have is the control of information. Generally the more involved the parents are, the more likely it is that kids will omit the information from parents by lying. For example if parents ask “where were you till now”?  “They reply nowhere,:” “what activates you did in your friend’s birthday party”, they say “nothing”, “who were there with you there”? They say “you don’t know them”.

But repeated lies about social status are a sign of trouble. They tell you that the kid has bad attitude about himself. Ask yourself what s the reason behind. They might be feeling humiliated or worthless, or is he being ignored? Or has anyone making fool of them?

If you suspect your child is deceiving you for one of this reasons, have a heart-to-heart conversation with your kids, encouraging him to express his anxieties. As the child is growing up it is said to lower your expectation so that he can achieve success in more manageable steps, which will strengthen his self confidence. Also give your child assurance that you will always love them, no matter what he says or does.

Deal with the lying child carefully and effectively.

WHY DO KIDS LIE TO THEIR PARENTS PART-1

            

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When any kid lie to their parent, it will but obvious that any parent will be hurt. And as a parent, it will definitely make you angry and you take all things personally. On that lying basis a parent will start feel that they can never trust their child again. Why does lying cause such an anger to parent. On contrary you have to handle this situation very smoothly and delicately.

Parents are very afraid of their child getting hurt and getting in trouble, but as a parent you don’t have any protection against this things as you have to send your kids out in this world to be with the world. Kids learn from other kids and from media also and it definitely makes parents feel unsafe, as they can’t control the information and ideas that are shared to children’s. Bad ideas and false views are just injected into kids mind through some media or any adult. This is very hard for a parent to keep control on this things happening and to protect them from all this harmful ideas and views..

Lying is the skill which all children learn early or late. It is a tool to avoiding blame or punishments, and be free from bad self image.

Sometimes children’s lie because they are terribly afraid of disappointing their parents or losing their love. While its very healthy for your child to be developing a conscience and hence to regret bad behavior, you don’t want him to feel that he losses a bit of your regards every time he makes a mistake. Children lie also because they are overwhelmed at school or in their social  lives and need help in dealing with the pressure.

Your kid s honesty is the connectivity between the outside world and you. You need to tell your kid to be honest and tell them to share all things what’s happening in outside world with you. And is your duty to hear all the talks which your child is telling you, in order to decide whether they are going in right direction or no.

The most common reasons for lying, particularly among young child is a fear of punishments. This makes very true when the punishments given to child is severe or the when the parents expectation is very high. Repeated lying can be a sign of several underlying problems, each one requires a different response from parents.

Kids are taught that lying is not good, it may hurt someone but they don’t see it as a hurtful. So kids will say that I know it’s wrong that I ate chocolates more when I m not supposed to.”But who does it hurt it?” So they will say that if its not hurting anyone they can lie.

So when they don’t see as hurtful, there are 2 kinds of value system operates here ::

One is the family value system which says its forbidden and the other is kids value system that says it’s not hurting anyone, then it’s OK for kids. So now its we who have to find way out for the kids and ourselves.

Just calm down and handle the lying kids delicately..

KIDS EXPECTATION FROM THEIR PARENTS PART-3

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As I have talked on many points about kids expectation from parents…One of the toughest part to do as a parent is to slow down and find time to talk to you child, respect their emotions or understand and trust them.

RESPECT THEIR EMOTIONS:

Respecting your kid’s emotions is also a important thing which you have to do. When parents constantly put their kids down, they will learn to be shy by nature. If parents give their children appreciation and praise them, they will definitely learn to appreciate and like themselves. Parents should be encouraging and uplifting kids best activities.

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SUPPORT IN NEED:

Kids expect support whenever they need. Because once in a while they turn to a point where they think that nobody loves them and no one is their to support them, at this time they should always feel free to turn to parents for love and support. Take care not to blame your child if they are struggling in school about their class work or home work. With this they may feel ashamed, which can harm them psychologically. You should understand and know very well that they are trying to do their best.

Understanding and trust:

Understanding and trust is a very important part of parent and child relationship. When you find that your child is doing something wrong, instead of shouting and sneaking on them, you must act decisively and positively. You have to understand them and trust them, if you want to receive it from them.. It is vice a versa,,,, if you trust them they will automatically trust you…..

ENCOURAGE AND APPRECIATE QUESTIONS:

As a parents you may face many questions from kids, and may be tired answering all “why” questions. But if you rightly handle this questions and reply in a polite manner, they will be encouraged towards life and there confidence level increases. And they are always encouraged to ask such curiosity questions and interest towards knowing new things is boosted.

LET HIM BE A TEACHER SOMETIME FOR A CHANGE:

Kids always love to be a teacher. As it boost their confidence in life. It’s a good way to know that what your child is learning new and how much they can grasp from school or from you. You can ask the questions about what they have learnt or about what they know, this will boost their confidence level.

When you expect from kids, its is but natural that they will also have some expectation with you....

Try to fulfill kids expectation

KIDS EXPECTATION FROM THEIR PARENTS PART-2

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Kid’s expectation from their parents is but same as parent’s expectation from kids.

What kids wants from parents is a great topic.

Here are some more of the points what kids expect from parents.

CORRECTION:

Kids always love if you correct them in right manner. Everyone needs correction at some time or another, age doesn’t mind for that. Many kids in today’s generation doesn’t get proper correction at right time which they need, so its possibility that they may start a wrong way in life…So parents should make them understand that things don’t go as they want, they should not be that hyper or and don’t get mad in any odd situation, as some kids have the habit, if the things doesn’t happens as they won’t they will get mad or just shout at someone or the others. Parents need to be teachers. They need to show kids what is right or wrong. Parents should set down some laws which should be followed by parents first and then kids.

HONESTY AND LOVE:

Most important thing I think will be honesty which kids expect from parents. All parents should be honest to their kids. If you expect honesty from your kids you have to do first, then only you will get that return. It is like that how you sow as is you get. When we ask kids not to fight with elders or there brothers and sisters, they will do the same as we do…if parents are fighting with each other’s then it’s but natural they will do the same. They expect love and compassion from parents when they do something wrong, they expect a chance to modify the mistake and get some right path from you parents.

The thing is that love goes hand in hand with honesty. It really sad when we see parents that don’t love their children and don’t care what their children do or what type of trouble are their children facing.

PAY ATTENTIONS:

Kids expect their parents to pay attention in there day to day work, whether it is their homework or any playing activities. Kids expect that parents should give attention whenever they need, keeping T.V off and mobile in silent mode and listen to kids talk or any problems. Encourage kids when they do good things. Say positive words more then negative one. Take time to explain kids what is wrong and right.

SHARE/SOMEONE TO TALK TO:

When sometimes your kids feel something bad of someone and needs to talk to someone, you should be there for them. They are facing any problem then they should be sure of that their parents will be the best place to share the problems. If you expect love from your kids you have to show your love and caring nature to kids first then you will definitely get it back as reward. Parents should love their kids and also show them that they care for them… Show that you are always there for them..Then only they will feel secure and share all things to you parents…

Have a strong relationship with your child

KIDS EXPECTATION FROM THEIR PARENTS PART-1

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The world is now so much busy that they forget to see to the child’s expectation and fail to remember the value of spending some time with children s. We spends our most of our time with computers, machines and struggling for a job. So the people have really forgotten to talk with living beings, live with nature and fights with their younger ones. If we have a look at our schedule it will be like mornings alarm to night, a running a race.

It is the duty of a child to fulfill all the parents’ dreams, and make them happy by listening to their parents and doing as their parents wants…..But its parent’s duty also to make their kids understand this. Time is most important thing in a kids parent relationship and don’t forget to spend time with one of your important person,,,, that is your child.

If parent can expect from kids so much then why not kids. They also expect from parents some things….Here are some things that kids really expect from parents…

LISTENING

Parents must be child’s best friend and must be mutual relationship. First of all you have to convince your child that you are his or her best friend, and you are always beside him/her whenever they need you. They must feel secure and comfortable share you everything s happening in there life. And this will be only possible when you listen to them carefully for any small or big issues they share with you. This attitude of your s will make child feel that they are more important to you than another thing in the world. You should listen to them, discuss with them, tell them the good and bad and you can always give suggestions and tell him, that you have given your view and now its theirs choice what to take decisions. They have right to make some decisions at their own. And also give them assurance that you trust them that they will take a right decisions. This will make them feel that you give importance to their interest. You can share your day spent in your house or in office, so that they will feel to share there’s.

SPEND TIME WITH THEM:

Many times when you ask your kids that what they want? They will simply reply that they need time of yours. In this busy world now a day’s parents fail to spend time with their kids. They give them everything before kids ask for but fail to give time to kids. The fact is that, it is the responsibility of a parents to make their children s life a better one. But the most important thing is to live with them, to share their emotions, there happiness, sadness, anger, expectation, disappointments, love, there interest, and everything…It is the parent who should say that put your phone away when I am talking to you……But is the other way round now a days. Kids say these words to their parents. So make practice to spend your some time with your favorites, that is your kids..

COMMUNICATION:

Communication or lack of communication is one major issue where distance is created between kids and parents. Many parents are not aware of their kid’s interest, dreams, hopes, desires, or sometimes also problems which there child is facing. So take some time and sit with your kid and talk about their interest, dreams, what they are thinking and ask them are they facing any problems in their schools or colleges. By this communication you will be updated about their likes and dislikes or any issues if they are facing. And they will also feel secure that their parents are taking interest in his life.

Kids expectation are not false, respect them…

RECIPES FOR NEW MOMS AFTER DELIVERY

Delivery is a very big thing for a mom as every part of your body goes under changes, and also there are many changes in your mental state. So it’s very important to take care of yourself after delivery. Most of the women wish to get back to their original shape immediately which is not possible you have to give time to yourself. Eating food that is nutritive has to be eaten. Lossing your weight drastically is impossible. Think of losing weight only after your baby is one year old, because if your don’t have enough nutrition’s in your body it will affect your baby s growth and it’s but natural that you won’t wish this.

After delivery there is some traditional food to be eaten which many moms don’t like, but you have no option then to eat for your health and for staying fit for your baby. Here are some traditional recipes for delivered women.

HEALTHY MASALA LADOOS:

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INGREDIENTS:

Wheat rough Atta:                    500 gm

Jaggery (gud):                          750 gm

Sugar candy (khadi sakkar):  200gm

Cashunuts:                               50 gm

Almonds (badam):                  100 gm

Khaskhas:                                25 gm

Methi powder:                          50 gm

Batrisu:                                     50 gm

(Different types of traditional masala)                     

Desi gund:                                200gm

Turmeric powder:                    1 tsp

Coconut grated:                       2 bowl

Ginger powder (sunth):           50 gm

METHOD:

1. Heat ghee and fry gund in it and crush roughly

2. Now roast wheat rough flour in the same ghee. When it turns into light brown color off the gas.

3. Now add ginger powder, batrisu, turmeric, roughly crushed gund,sugar candy(khadi sakar) to the wheat flour and mix it well.

4. Then take a pan and add ghee and jaggery and melt it, and roast the jaggery nicely for just 2 to 3 minute.

5. Then add the flour to the melted jaggery and add grated coconut,cashunuts,almonds, and methi powder and mix it well and make ladoos of it and store it in an air tight container.

This ladoos are eaten at any time of day with in that starting 45 days. It helps in recovering of your health…Each and every ingredient in this ladoos has its importance in recovery of you health after delivery.

HEALTHY SHIRA:

         

INGREDIENTS:

Wheat flour:                     1 cup

Jaggery (gud) grated:     ½ cup

Ginger powder:                2 tsp

Pipermul powder:            2tsp

Dry coconut grated:         3 tsp

METHOD:

1. Roast the wheat flour in ghee till golden brown and keep aside.

2. Then make jaggery water on slow flame, boil it till jiggery dissolves.

3. Now add the jiggery water in the roasted flour, and also add ginger powder,pipermul powder, coconut grated, badam chopped, and mix it well.

The shira is ready. This should be taken every morning before bath so that you can be then ready for breakfast.

GUND PAKA:

INGREDIENTS:

Raw gund:                1 cup

Ghee:                        2 cup

Cashunuts:               ½ cup

Badam:                     ½ cup

Dry coconut grated: 1 cup

Ginger powder:        1 tbsp

Pipermul powder:     2 tsp

METHOD:

1. Crush gund in the mixer grinder.

2. Chop dry fruits and grate coconut.

3. Now mix gund, dry fruits, coconut, ginger powder, pipermul powder, jaggery mix it well and set in a plate, now add hot ghee on it and let it set for sometime in refrigerator.

Gund is heat giving food so this gund pak is very helpful in back pain. If you eat this pak continually till 3 month you won’t have back pain which happens in delivery.

FOOD TO BE EATEN BY NEW MOMS AFTER DELIVERY PART-2

There are many healthy food eaten in delivery.And there are some traditional food which is very healthy and important for moms and babies also.As you have lost many vitamins and minerals from your body you have to take care of your self also after delivery. Eating healthy will help you to recovery very fast. At least for 45 days whether you like or no but you have to follows some medicines foods to be eaten.

Here are some foods which can be used to be eaten as medicines also,as it helps in recovery you fast.

DRY FRUITS:

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Dry fruits like almond and cashunuts are very rich in carbohydrates and vitamins and fiber, contains minerals like copper, zinc, potassium and calcium. Dry fruits can be used in many recipes such as badam halwa, badam and cashunuts milk, sheera and also can be ate roasted in ghee.

MILLET (BAJARA, RAGI)

Millet is a good source of obtaining energy for delivered mom. Wheat flour should be skipped if possible. You can make roti’s of bajara and ragi.It contains calcium and iron which is needed in plenty after delivery. It can help in regaining strength and energy.

SAUNTH (GINGER POWDER)

Saunth contains fiber,vitamin E and B 6, magnesium,potassium,iron and manganese. You can use ginger powder to make your milk in morning and night. Saunth laddoes are very famous in Gujarat after delivery it’s very important to eat. It consists of saunth, jaggery, and ghee. It helps baby to keep its stomach safe from gas and upsetness. Saunth powder can also be used in sheera or any sabji which is made for delivered moms.

AJWAIN (CAROM SEEDS):

It is traditional believed that ajwain is good source of thymol,not only smooth’s pain of stomach but also give relief from indigestion's and cleans uterus. You can use ajawain in many dishes like parathas or sheeras (halwas) made in morning for breakfast. Roasted Ajwain is also eaten with roasted til(sesame seeds) after breakfast,lunch,and dinner. So that what you have eaten can be digested easily.

TURMERIC:

Turmeric contains vitamin b 6 and C, fiber, potassium and magnesium. Not only it is used in Indian cooking but is also very famous in healing external and internal wounds also. It helps in healing post pregnancy wounds and cure stomach disorders. You can take turmeric milk regularly after delivery at least for 3 months. You can also take fresh turmeric in your lunch and dinner. You have to peal the skin and just cut it in to pieces and add lemon and salt. It tastes is somewhat bitter but it’s very important to eat in delivery. And helps moms and baby both in several ways.

 GARLIC:

Garlic is a popular ingredient, which brings the flavor of food.From ancient days, garlic has a big medicinal benefits. Garlic if eaten in delivery is very benefited.But should be eaten in a limited quantity. You can use it in any subji you make or any daal also.You can include in your bajara s rotis also.It contains essential minerals,vitamins and amino acids which helps in improving the health condition of lactating moms.As it has medical properties it is many time used to treat indigestion ,swelling or infection

Eat happily and stay fit.

  

FOOD TO BE EATEN BY NEW MOMS AFTER DELIVERY PART-1

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It is very common that all moms’ feels exhausted in first few weeks of delivery. And is very natural that you cannot focus on yourself but has to see all the time for your babies needs. Eating right can go a long way in helping you get back your strength and energy. After all a baby need a strong and healthy mum. As you are breastfeeding. You eat will pass to your baby through your milk. So you have a big reason to eat healthy diet.But you have to take give sometime for yourself also after delivery as this is the time where you can take care of yourself and can recover fast. New mums are often overwhelmed and too tired to eat properly. Vegetarian’s moms face even more challenge because they like it or not, they have to follow the balance diet to get best nutrition. Then too you don’t have to give up and continue to your vegetarian balanced diet. Many researchers have found that vegetarian’s diets are healthier for pregnancy and breastfeeding. Life with new born babies are very challenging job, you cannot get time to rest or exercise in those few starting months and is very difficult to eat well also.

But it’s very important to choose healthy and nutritious foods. Start balanced diet and drinking plenty of water. Instead eating 3 heavy meals, Eat small meals throughout the day.

WATER:

 As after delivery you have lost much of water from your body, and as you are feeding your baby you will need much of water, else there are chances of yourself getting dehydrated, so to produce good and healthy milk it is necessary to keep yourself highly hydrated. You can opt for various types of fruit juices, lemon water or milk .Avoid soft drinks or any other type of drinks with preservative…Make sure if possible avoid tea or coffee also, as the caffeine which is there in it may enter your breast milk and can cause your baby become irritate by nature or won’t be able to sleep properly. So to be fit and make your baby fit you have to drink large quantity of water

VEGETABLES:

Vegetables supply healthy carbohydrate that provides energy, vitamins and nutrition’s to your body and your babies as you are feeding you baby. Vegetables also provide different types of fibers which helps in constipation which is a common problem after delivery. You can to eat all green leafy vegetables like methi,palak,bottle guard,brinjal,tinda etc.You have to skip some vegetables like cabbage ,cauliflower, different types of beans,potatoes,cucumber etc means those vegetables which create gas or upset in stomach to babies. As whatever you eat goes to your babies so there are chances of getting gas problem for baby, as small babies are new to this world and don’t have any experience of eating all vegetables. After 1 months you can start all this vegetables but start with small quantity like with one spoon a day, so that the baby start to getting use to it.

FRUITS:

Fruits play an important role in balanced diet too. Apple and banana are very good for the breastfeeding moms. Citrus fruits like orange and sweet lime are very nutrious.oranges is a great food to boost your energy. Vitamin c gives healing to your wounds and can recover fast. Any citrus fruits are excellent breastfeeding foods. As nursing moms needs more vitamins C than pregnant women. You can have orange or sweet lime juice if you can’t get time to eat whole of the fruit.

Eating right after delivery isn’t that complex; just you have to continue eating a good quality of diet just you did at time of pregnancy. As after delivery you require special nutritional management of diet.

TIPS FOR NEW MOMS CARE

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Soon after delivery a mom is finished with her energy. And needs to take a good care of herself with baby also. You will have to rest much more than before and should take food in high nutrition. As you when have a baby you may be told by your near and elders to take care for first few days. This is very important because this is the time if you take a complete care of yourself after delivery will help you life time.Its the best to allow your body to heal at its own pace. You can help yourself by taking a good rest and eat well and taking care of infections if any.

Enjoy this period of rest and settling down, and then you have to rush after your baby and also in your hectic life. Your body will be going to through lot of changes and ups and down during that days of motherhood. Mothers that live in joint family or that move to their parents house for the delivery of their child are more likely to follow some traditional rules and regulations.

It depends on which part do you belong to for the indoor practice after delivery. Mostly in south,, north,west India the moms stay at home till 45 days and in north eastern state this is not done. And in some part of south India women stay at home for about 60 to 65 days.

Tension or any type of stress may directly affect the milk for child so please don’t keep any stress and spend this rest time happily.

MASSAGE:

Many moms hire a massage maid for massages or maids to help them in their house during this time. Traditionally there are many restrictions for new moms for few days after delivery. This helps the new mums to recover fast and can get time to set their body to the original post. A massage will be given to be relaxed from the tiredness you felt during delivery. It helps in blood circulation also. Massage taken should be different for different type’s delivery. If you have normal delivery you can start this massage after 8 to 10 of delivery. And if you have Cesarean you have to wait till 15 to 20 days after delivery. As in Cesarean the stitches is on the stomach so the stitches should not affect from this massage.

REST:

Rest is equally important for you as new moms. As after delivery your body has lost all the energy you have to gain it again by taking rest so that after 45 days you are ready to jump into your life again with all work of yours and new born babies. As after delivery if you don’t take proper rest then in long run you will have some health problems like back ache, increasing your body without any reasons. And if this back aches comes in very small age it’s very terrible. Whenever you sleep for rest after delivery cross your legs so that the air doesn’t enter your body. If the air enters your body then there are chances of increasing the stomach and increased stomach part will stay for life time.

NUTRITIOUS FOOD:

After delivery many moms complain that they have gained too much weight, but there is no need to worry’s the weight gained will be helpful for breastfeeding. After delivery you should eat a healthy and balanced diet so you can be active and able to care for your baby. Many doctors recommend that you should eat when you are hungry, but many mums are so tired and busy that they forget to take their meals on time. So it’s very important that you should plan a proper timing for your breakfast, lunch and dinner too.

So its recommended that delivery should be done under some experienced elders which can be your family members like your mother in law, or your mother or any other family members also you can hire some cook and all time maids who can take care of yours and babies too.

Whoever you decide to have as your helper, but you have to be dam sure to make everything clear to them that what you want them to do. This will help you to take care of yourself, and keep you from limiting time with your babies.

So I request to all new mums that It’s very important to take a good care of yourself with babies...This affects your future fitness also.

TIPS ON CARE TAKEN OF NEW BORN BABIES

     

As a new parent you are always worried how to do and what to do??Parents help the new born in many aspects and different phases of life are know as parenthood. Its the most beautiful phase where you will become mature as a adult and live a different but a beautiful life. As a new born baby is new to this world so are you as parents. As we know babies don’t know to speak or any language at least for starting 2 years to communicate.

1. RIGHT CHOICE OF BABY PRODUCTS:

It’s very important to use the right products for babies, e.g. baby soap, baby lotions, baby shampoo, and baby powder. Babies .An ideal product should be used Skin is very thinner than that of adults and may be more sensitive to irritants. Skin needs to remain carefully hydrated to keep it strong. Daily moisturizing with a proper and good lotion or oil can help to maintain skins essential vitamins and minerals.

2. SANITIZING:

As the new born baby is very delicate its skin and all parts of body is very soft and delicate so we should sanitize our hands who so ever pick the baby in hand. As the new born babies skin is very delicate it may pick infection quickly so its always safe to sanitize your hand before touching baby.

3. KEEP THE BABY CLEAN:

As the born baby is new to the world all the dirt may be first stick to your baby. As the skins some part will be folded so dirt may gather at that place. Make sure that you clean your baby regularly with warm water with dettol sanitizer. Keep nails also clean else if the nails will increase and all dirt will gather in that and if baby sucks the hands it is possible all the dirt will go inside the stomach through mouth so cleaning nails is also very important, keep cutting nails with some smooth nail cutter. And also if you don’t cut the nails regular then baby may scratch its skin while playing with hands.

4. HANDLE YOUR BABYIES HEAD, NECK AND BACK:

Till 9 months babies were in wombs they were nicely curled in it. So the bones and muscles of babies are still soft. Keeping a steady and strong support for the back and the neck is essential .Head will be on a soft neck so it will not stay steady as of big kids. It will take time to get steady. Keep you palms always under the neck and head to prevent head dangling? It might cause a break in neck bones also. You should let the baby’s head rest inside the elbow with the length of the body resting in your forearms. Its outer hips and upper legs should rest with your hands, with inside arms resting over your chest and abdomen. Avoid shaking your baby either in playing or angry. This can cause bleeding in brain, which may lead to death also. If the baby is sleeping for longer time, don’t try to wake it by shaking, instead try to tickle its foot or give it a smooth touch with your chick or kiss is very smoothly and softly.

5. UNDERSTAND BABY's LANGUAGE:

As I said earlier that babies don’t know how to speak or any language to communicate, he/she will always communicate through his crying technique. You’re as a parent has to understand what the problem and what he or she wants. The baby may be hungry or may be discomforting something. You have to find out what the problem and make them comfortable so that they may calm down.

6.SIGHT:

When you see in your new born babies eyes, the feeling as a parent is owsome.The sight sense is the last thing to be fully developed in a baby. When babies are born they see in black and white and some shades of grayish type. It takes about 4 to 5 months to see in color forms. New born babies can only see the short distance things about to 10 to 12 inches which is the distance between your face and the babies eyes. During the 1st year babies blink 2 to 5 times each minute while grown up clinks 14 to 18 times each minute. Eye contact is the part of communication for kids developments.

Now new parents there is no need to worry about your new born baby...Read this and try to follow it....You wil definitely become a trained now.